I have come to  the conclusion that,  parents feuding over keeping  the noise levels  down,when the kids are younger  is not something very necessary.One of the  causes of the the accommodation difficulties, that lead to constant movements,  is the presence of the noisy kids ,which goes away as the infants  become mature and a little bit sensible. Arguments  do  happen, because  one of the partner,  might be exhausted  and tired of his /her level of commitment , towards looking after the noisy kids.This happens when one of the partner is   at work , but does not provide  the  needed resources to take care of everyone especially  good comfortable  accommodation. She/he  may not always be  there , when angry  neighbours  make  complaints  about  the noisy kids and the need  to keep the noise levels  down within the building.The partner at the receiving end of the anger ,often cries out  and if ones partner,  seem not to be complimenting your efforts in bearing everyone's anger about the kids  ,it could lead to resentments  between partners.If one has  a good  job,it is better to save and buy  a  home for the family before getting  married  and  having kids just for ones  peace of mind,especially if one wish to live in big cities like London.

One partner  might think that leaving the kids,  to pursue  a career , could be  the solution to getting  a suitable  home for the kids,but it is better to plan ahead  before  ever getting married  by saving and buying ones home  in a suitable neighbourhood, where kids can run around  without upsetting adults  ,who need  to sleep to get to work early the next day.These situations go away  in few years,  as the kids   grow up .But if not handled well  ,could  lead to harrowing life changing  situations,which leads to  sad memories of a life time  of constant  movements  and troubles,  as some of the ladies are telling everyone in the news this week.There  could be serious consequences,  for everyone  if not handled well.It is a serious issue that those  stepping into marriage  and having children needs to sort out first,because people  who have been there  have diverse stories to tell.Most marriages break up due to arguments,  caused by the  neighbour's  anger  about noisy kids and the constant need to move around and  away for people,  leading to  constant changes in accommodation,  which stresses  everyone out, because of the  early year  toddlers shouting and crying  about.Shuttling from one location to another  with  toddlers in the pram , holding three others running to catch up the buses,  jumping  into trains  from Essex to London,  could be stressful ,but many  parents  do keep  hold  when faced with such  situations.The baseless talks  and narratives of ones situation, to so many people is what  leads to relationship breakdowns , because I  could  remember  some of us moms, hanging  by the libraries reading  and waiting for the   toddlers  to finish school, so that we could pick them up to travel back home  after school.And we  had to stay  by after school clubs  to  keep the  toddlers  busy .We return back home  when the  toddlers are very tired .So they just eat  ,bath ,sleep and return back  to school the next day and there  will be no issues with  the working neighbours  and the noisy toddlers  as we were  always on the go.  And  most mums had to cook  and still do home  work ,after the lengthy  school runs  and they  have to wake up again to take the tots  back to school  again the next day .Talks about who is  doing the  school runs the more,who is cooking the more,who is  bathing the kids the more,  could cause frictions between the adults involved. Sometimes there  could be instabilities , that do add pressures  on  those  looking after the young kids,which could be handled maturely  in latter years as the grown kids  could help to salvage lots of  stressful situations  , that arise with moving around lots of times.Parents  moving about to live in so many places ,could  cause strain in relationships especially  where there is no much love  and understanding with the bond  not  very strong.But it is  a situation that goes away ,which could be avoided by  buying  a house before  settling down to avoid being thrown about.We heard  the mum involved yesterday ,telling everyone that she felt  embattled and we were  all laughing ,because the landlords  are not interested  in losing their valuable working tenants  to jobless mums, looking after  noisy crying school kids.I could remember  when  I had the noisy toddlers  and since the  houses  in London are built together ,most neighbours  were not happy about screaming playing kids.So  sometimes after  living in a building for  a month,one could be served quit  notices ,because the neighbour  whose bedroom is opposite your living room, has no patience  to listen to little tots  screaming at 12.00 midnight  and asking for   glasses of juices to drink  or jumping on the sofa  while mum is  cooking  or  playing  and pushing  the  television  buttons loud, when no one is watching creating chaos and so much noises,because the neighbours  are resting to  return to work by 3am in the morning  and have no time for you and the noise making bunch.This leaves parents  tiptoeing about and asking young kids to follow suit ,with the jumpy kids oblivious  that   the neighbours are not interested in crying kids.And if you scream loud to ask the toddlers to calm down,they will cry to school to complain that mum is screaming hard at them,leaving mums feeling  embattled, but it is part  of the growing up processes and most people  sit to relieve such memories when kids grow  and be laughing.  One has to keep  hushing the toddlers to keep quiet and most times, the men are not happy that their  wives cannot keep the kids silent.When they come back  from work,the neighbour might call the man of the house  aside,  to ask them to tell their  wife to keep the jumpy happy kids under control.With men who are not working with much wisdom,they will rush in to blame their  wives for  such situations  and these  could lead to arguments,  with the  women deciding that it is better  to call it quits,  because  their  partners  did not understand  the constant  struggles to keep the  noise levels down.These are  some of the situations, that mean  that  everyone involved ,do move  into ten houses in one month.But I believe the best option, is to move into  the  less crowded cities,  with  no working class neighbours  ,who have no time  for noisy tots.Most people get on with the movements , just to  keep their jobs in the London inner  cities ,as that  is where the money is.It is just  a situation where  the kids are  living together  with intolerant adults.So suddenly  a notice to move comes in ,with the starry  eyed youngsters  not understanding what is going on.The man of the house will be  running about every now and then ,calling new moving vans ,while the  woman of the house ,maybe blaming him for not having  enough resources to buy a suitable house.The movements  get everyone into  states of frustrations,  because  the kids  have to go to school.The parents  waking up by 3a.m ,gets to breaking points ,as not everyone  can endure the rigours of having to move kids  from one street in Essex,  to the next in London on week two, when school resumes for the happy clappy jumpy tots, oblivious that their noisemaking  has been driving neighbours  nuts,because they  are just kids.I think the best thing is to shift away until the tots grow up ,than to travel    from Chadwell  St Mary's  to Leyton every morning,  shuttling toddlers  about. And moving from house to house  ,week to week,till it goes  to  six  houses in one month .Such situations could be life  draining.Its all about the kids  and their  noise making levels, which  is the nature of kids  and  part of the growing up processes.Such  movements  lead  some parents   into serious troubles,  especially when trying to get the noise levels down,  for kids who  do not know what you are talking about.But in few years  time ,the kids will be grown to the point that neighbours  wont be hearing noises again and  there will be no-one complaining to  the landlords about kids  jumping up and down on the beds or sofas, while mum is cooking in the kitchen and dad is at  work.And you will be wondering about all the stress, everyone had to go through just because of  the  noises the youngsters  make and you will be laughing  when they become grown,especially  if you did not handle the situation well.   I  have come to realise,  how  childhood  experiences,  shape  what  people  become  or do  in adult relationships.Most people  who have feuding parents  end up as feuding  partners  to others.When two partners grew up ,with feuding parents,it makes it  difficult for them to  hold  relationships together , because people practise  what they have observed their parents  doing  in their marriages.This  made me to  decide that I must write  books  that  will  make  children to be happy.Many  adults  who live together  as  spouses , do  not understand how  children feel  about  their  parents  not getting along.It causes  children lots of pains.I  feel that  sometimes  one  of the parents  need to  let go  and allow the kids  to enjoy their childhood.Imagine  a partner  not  forgiving  the other one,for  trivial  grievances  based on anger over money,where to live  or  for  those  ones  who find it hard  to stay  faithful , the  sensible thing to  do  for feuding parents is to consider the kids.If you have been  in situations  where  third  parties  are  being brought in, to talk  about ones parents  ,before the other parents.It is not a good  scenario  for  children to be in.And  sometimes the feuding adults  might feel that they are taking counsels  from people that  have their interests at heart , to be fighting  over trivial matters  ,at the end of the day  it is the grasses  that  feel the pains  when two elephants  are fighting.

What  am I  telling my reading friends,sometimes  adults need to  let go before troubles escalate  outside the  walls  of their  bedroom.Most times the  people  asking people to continue  feuding, will not be there in six years  to  come  ,but the damages would have been done  inside the kids . The crowd of people  who  are only there  for their  own interests , but pretend to  be mediators,  will  not be there  when  the family has already been scattered,the kids  education  affected,  by the  times spent in feuding ,with some children  dropping in school grades or even out of  school, because  they cannot cope with the stress of the moment.Years down the line , you may have contributed to the kids not attaining their  potentials in life,  because  of little  feuds that  did not allow them to have one of the parents , helping them to do homework,getting them a birthday  gift or  attending  school events with them. Playtimes are often missed,  because there  are no parents  to stay and watch the  kids  playing.So you have feuding adults, tagging kids  to  work and dropping them off nannies ,instead of just  going to  work without getting the kids  out to hang around  with others  after school.The times  spent  shuttling the kids from place to place , could  be times  when they are supposed to be having  short sleeping times of rest,  before dinner.So you have two adults  scheduling for  drop  offs for  kids  from place to place, instead of  just moving  home after work and away from the unneeded dramas.Sometimes  everyone ages  fast , while the the feuds  are raging.When one thinks  of  what could have been happy family  times,  like  attending the parks together  to play  with  the kids, strolling out together  as a family  during evenings,going to McDonalds or KFC together or visiting Uncle Tim,Grandma Percy or  Aunty  Julle together  with mum and dad.One  would have seen  that the joy of being together , while watching the kids grow  up outweighs the little  misunderstandings ,that drive  families apart.One sensible partner needs to let go .It is not defeat  or  weakness.Sometimes  the people fueling  the separations,  do not  actually understand the nature  of kids  and how hurtful  such  situations  can be  for them.

Sometimes  it could be that the men  are  more  into their careers , leaving the  women with nothing.Sometimes  the women looking after kids , feel  underappreciated  and  if their partners  are not financially  supportive, they  might become  sad.They might call it quits  and move on to their  own careers,leaving the kids  to experience  lengthy  times  of watching their parents  argue about who will keep the kids.Most times before the  arguments  are settled  ,the kids  become  adults and the feuding adults  might  realise that they  have done  nothing, but folly.By then it will be too late to salvage the situation.So instead of parents  happily attending events like  graduations, matriculations or wedding ceremonies  together  with joy,the most angry partner  who  has the kids  ,will never allow the other  partner to come around.It is such a dicey situation for  someone  to find themselves in and one has to  keep  explaining to  friends,  the reasons why their own dads/mums cannot be at their  wedding.It boils  down to the more  selfish partner, hijacking the beautiful  moments  to themselves, not letting go  years  long grievances  that  ruin  so many beautiful family moments.I believe that  when adults are feuding,it is not good to tell so many people just few  confidants  and family members, to enable quick recovery.The wisdom  is never say anything, awful about your spouse  to people,even if you are  quarrelling. Just keep it to the wraps within the family.Many people cannot  get reconciliations , after a feud  because of what they said about their spouses.It is better to remain polite , no matter  who  is considered the one that is not  doing things  right.A relationship or marriage  is not a competition field,  but a place where  kids are raised to become complete  happy adults.Such  scenes  where  there  are loads  of family gossips , could be hurtful to kids  and  they affect the way they will also relate with their  own spouses in the future.Feuding while raising kids  together is not necessary and could be avoided ,if one partner  decides to just let go  .But the  counsel is to plan ones family life ahead of time ,from when one finishes  school,save ,buy a house,be financially stable , before thinking about getting married and having kids .

The  negative psychological impact of  isolating oneself  from others and  why diversity  is good for  communities.

by  Chinyere  Nwakanma Tues  01  June 2025 at  01:07 pm BST·15-min read

People  like  associating  with others, feeling  loved and  accepted by friends, family and associates brings good  health and helps to improve people's  mental health state. It actually  does make people  happy.  People  who have  that feeling of a  general  sense  of  acceptance and feel good personalities , achieve more for themselves and  society  and they live healthier lives. That is what most  artistes who latter  become famous and successful have, because  they love what they do, are confident, feel loved  and free to share  what they are doing with others, without that fear of  being condemned  or being told  to move away and go out of  circulation because they are not good  enough and subsequently pushed into a life of poverty or becoming mentally ill people due to  depression caused  by lost opportunities, friendships and professional  networks  and sometimes heavy financial losses  due to misinformation being spread  about them. Good networking is the key  to  selling  ones ideas  and products and  subsequently  becoming financially stable  which helps people to live  very good  stable happy lives. Successful people work to  bring joy to  others. Being joyful  comes from having good friends, professional colleagues, community friends  and family networks. There  are  lots to lose  when people are ostracized  from their own  networks of friends, professional colleagues  and families because of people  people who are  running mischief  around others . They make others  to lose the needed  shoulders  to cry on  when things  go  wrong and they make people  not to  have  no-one to share their joys with when they are celebrating. It is  an awful place to be. Such a  situation  can have a very negative   psychological impact on people  and  it is not good for the general mental wellbeing of communities . Sometimes  it  could have  very negative impacts on people's mental health, their  productivity  and their  general  well being. I've seen  what people  can achieve if  good knowledgeable  family members or friends   give   them good advice  on their  finances, marriages  and career  directions . Many  people  who have  not spoken to  their families  and friends  over years are the most unhappy people. Such situations arise when people  gradually  gets  left out from  family events  invitations, because they travelled  out of town, quarrelled  or  could not  agree anymore with those  who love them.  Suddenly they are  no longer calling  or asking after  their families  and then it becomes  the norm. The things causing family and community  quarrels are just minute  issues , that  bring people to those points of not answering phone  calls  from extended family members or friends because they  just want to stay away and alone over  hearsays  from people  who  do not  really  care  deeply about them ,who they will not see in few years to come  and who will never be there for them when they fell  sick or at  old age. It starts  by a desire  to stop associating  with people one love, due to little baseless gossips. This  is something that is  not good especially for the middle aged and elderly. Community  cohesion  is very  good  and  celebration times are what make  life great. Sometimes people  try to make others to feel ashamed of their own family members. Sometimes  you will  be surprised  at  people   who ask others not to be with their own families  just to take advantage of  them. They make others to feel  inadequate because of  their  own personal interests. They  make  the vulnerable to enter into shells making them to to become lost or  ostracized from society. It   starts  mostly  through people  fuelling unneeded  rumours  about others, making those  involved objects of insecurity, vulnerabilities  and they  end  them in psychiatric hospital wards , because of little foolish whispers  in  social circles and they feel  that  it is better for them  to stay  away from those who love them than integrate  with  them. But such  decisions  to stay away  is not good  for people's mental health as people  need love  and acceptance  to thrive as humans .A healthy society  is  a place where people feel loved  and  accepted, where  people come together to dance, clap and chat. A place where people relate  well without  having  a feeling  of not  being accepted .Even  on social media  which  is virtual sometimes  it is amusing when people's  names  pop  up  and  you are asked  to be careful  about them,  based on little  "misinformation" from the people circulating negative things  about others , based on pressured events. It  is good to stay  safe, but not away from innocent  friends and families,  but some  people  are going to extremes   trying to stop  people  from associating  with others.This is  unhealthy community and social packaging, due  to lack of  empathy, love and an understanding  by people  who have rigid views  about others  based  on  prejudice, with unneeded negative information being circulated about  ordinary people just  to feel  superior  due to childishness and some  people's  inabilities to move with the times is not helping societies. We are in a modern world , as the world  has moved on  with the  advent  of  the social  media  and  video mobile  phones .It amuses me that  some people  will  see others standing in front of them and they are looking for other negative  things to say  about them. Here  is someone totally innocent  and totally oblivious of any wrong and he is circulating  misinformation   about them, based  on bias  and  prejudice .Such  situations have  made so many people  to decide  to stay on their  own, rather than endure being whispered about by  strangers and when they meet  difficult  situations, they run into  depression and diverse  difficulties, because  the  networks  they need  to thrive  have been removed from them and they live  life enduring pain and hardship as they have become  socially ostracized by pride  and prejudice the sister. Some of the  young people  find it hard  to socialise  or even find  a partner  to  marry because of the  fear of others, which  has been rooted  into  them by  people  circulating rumours and lies  about others. And they leave people wondering  about their  single status , since they are handsome rich good eligible bachelors  and beautiful spinsters .And many who  have the negative tribal  indoctrinations engraved in them,do  miss out  on friendships and business networks as the internally  engraved  negative   teachings about others  ,have damaged their abilities to love and interact with others. They  become the ostracized  singletons,  who everyone is  trying to reconnect with people just to get them to find love.  Love  for them becomes  a mirage  conditioned  by society  and those they met  while  growing up. Such  situations  can be psychologically draining  and many people  are not married  today, because  the people  they met that love them were  removed by those around them. Sometimes  people  find all the would be partners brought  by their friends and  families not   suitable  for them. Sometimes it just one family  member  frowning  at someone brought  by a relative to  marry. It amuses  me that people  can actually ask someone they love to move away  because  another  person does  not like them.I  always  have this feeling  that they  really  did not  like the person  enough,  as no pressures  can break  up  true love.At the end of the day  when they  grow old past their marital  age,  they will  find  out that their families have moved on with their own lives  and they cannot redeem  the times lost or the lost love. Their  families leave them by error ,to be in lifelong search  for  love  and  someone to be with at old age ,which  is  a situation they will  face alone with all the future problems  associated with their  mistakes. And  such  situations  do actually  have   very negative impacts on people's well being  and mental health. Diversity and inclusion through interracial marriages  is beautiful. I have  scores of  people I  know,  who never  settled  with the people they love ,because their  families  did not approve of the  people  they  brought home. Such people  go through  serious life impacting traumas, because they had  to  say goodbye  to someone they truly love because of  family  pressures. I find it quite  amusing  that  parents  do succumb to the pressures  of letting their kids marry the wrong people, just because of interracial prejudice and acrimonies  based on race, leaving the people  they truly  love to  stay  lonely  all their lives, because of flimsy  excuses from people  trying to please their friends,  who will latter  move on and away into their own beautiful  lives. They want their  circle of friends  to accept who their  children are marrying, which is irrelevant to finding love. Such people go through life feeling the pain of  leaving their lost love and they always find their partners not good enough for them, leaving a gap  inside their hearts .You will see those ones marrying and divorcing many times and dating again,  trying  to find someone similar to the person they missed. I believe that it  is being insensitive to tell ones  children  to move away from someone they love and who  loves  and cares  about them ,who they will find true  fulfilment  with and  who will make them happy just because of some little  silly flimsy excuses , based on what irrelevant people feel  about a would  be union or will say.At the end of the day only few parents do live with their kids after marriage. I  still  find it amusing that  even with  our civilisation  such  scenarios  still  exists, with many being told  to desert love for  unneeded  societal pressures based on bias, folktales, pride and prejudice.  Diversity means  accepting others  despite  their  races and colour. Most  things people  do  in this  area , boils  down to trying to please others which  they will  latter find out that  it does not really matter  with time and age. True love conquers all things. Living in a multidiverse  neighbourhoods over years in London  have made me to understand that  the thin divide  between  the things that make us different is  not as wide  as we feel. But having  an understanding of who people are , will  help us to understand them, accept them and  get along with them. It baffles  me that  someone will not like others  simply because of race. That is having  a thin unreasonable  way of thinking which is not healthy for society. Not liking others because of race  is being myopic,  because  human beings  are not very different from one another, its  just people's  belief  systems based  on where  they were  born. And no one  has the ability to  determine  where  they will be  born, everything is done by providence. I believe London is doing well in the area of integrating  people  and it is  something that have kept  many people healthy  and feeling belonged  . Those causing  others pain by telling them that they do not belong, have failed to understand the love that transcends races and languages. But  any society  where  people  move  freely, interacts with one another  without  prejudice is  a very  healthy  society.  Parents  who  deny their children the joy of being with the people they  love because of race are making grave mistakes,  because  we are all the same products  of providence  and creation.

Chinyere  Nwakanma  writes  about  how  capitalism has  made us to forget  about the simple things of life

May   21  2025 20.55pm  BST

I  happen to be someone reserved , with  many conservative views  about  life, which  is one of  the nature  of the people of my own time. But  I  became drawn into   the world of capitalism  , which  some of my friends    are  also stuck  in.And life became more about what you can  get and  what you can acquire , which    made all of us to  join the panicky life of meeting deadlines and meeting times, of which  I am not against  those who have chosen to embrace the rat race to the point of forgetting  about beautiful family moments  .I actually  used to think that the  24 hours  a  day  was  too  small  for mankind  to  do  everything that they needed to do.Nightshifts, dayshifts,weekend shifts  became my best friends, standing at the train stop alone  by midnight became  a habit after working    and  sleepless nights  of work took a toll on me.  Fatigue and lack of concentration at the  things I used to do became my friends  . I started looking at  what I could have  , rather than what I could do for others. Capitalism is the root  of every selfish living,  of which  the thought of  getting everything , gets us  

consumed with greed,  when we fail  to keep  the boundaries by  separating needs from  want.And sometimes  we fail to understand that others  exist , because  we are too busy  to see the humans  in them.Our caring attitudes to others  disappear  and we begin to see them as objects  and even numbers.We  see them as  data, not humans  walking down the streets , just objects  to  satisfy our  capitalist tendencies,  because we have been driven away from the realities of being human  and the warmth that comes from  family relationships  and  having relationships with others.This is the reason  why our  cousins drift  away  to the point of  thinking  of ending it all ,  because they think that they are alone in this huge wild world, when they should have our arms around them and a  shoulder to cry on when  pressed by the  problems  of life.We  seem  not to care for  anyone  anymore  or think  about reaching out to others, when we become consumed  by the greed  of capitalism.We  become objects of quarells  and  antagonisms,  rather than  humans full of love.Our lifestyles  become that of   dragging things with  others  and even our kin ,those dearest to us  and family gatherings  become  aliens, but they are  supposed  to be the most important  parts of  our lifestyles.Family  becomes  far away  people  and sometimes  we  embrace the folly of seeing  our families and those who love  us as enemies ,when they are not.We are    frail humans, born with with  the  abilities to embrace love  and compassion,  but when we get drawn into  capitalism   we  become species with no care for anyone  except   our selfish  inner  selves craving for more.Everyone  we see  becomes  an  object  to help  the   expansion of  our  financial books,  rather  than  friends,  sisters and  loved ones.Being relaxed and contented where  one is,  is a good quality  that  helps one to live a life  of  less worries  and  anxieties.I am not asking my readers  to become hermits ,but if  one feels that  her  capitalist  circles  are bringing  her anxious  moments, that the crowd  with you runs you out of steam, leading to  constant   anxieties  then  it is better  to withdraw, to keep your mental  health clean and return when you can think properly  but maintain  close relationships with your friends,untill  you can think  soundly rather than getting to the point of  having  a mental breakdown  which  could  lead  to  so much  losses  and  sometimes  ridicule  from those  who  do  not actually  know you.Pressures  are not good  for  productivity  and  capitalism makes people  to lose the  essence of living,  hence  our angers and frustrations  about those around us.It is this capitalist tendencies that lead to  relationship breakdowns,  making sisters  to point accusing  fingers  at their brothers,  as the sources of their  bad luck or vice versa,dragging whole circles  of families and friends  into bickering  and shows of no love , while the world watches on. Writing Graceful  has helped me to  have an understanding of the lifestyle of reaching out to others  in true  love  and  seeing them as humans  with frailties .I  used to have  this love of wristwatches  and I   tried to  see  if  by acquiring  too many  wristwatches, my endless  and constant  cravings  for  seeing  wristwatches   at the shop windows will end.I bought  all types of  wristwatches,  until  my cravings  stopped  and I  have come to see  the futility  of  asking for more, more, more  of which those  around me found very  strange ,being  part of the rat race of  trying  to  get more  ,more ,more  and  putting some in the potholes  and that does not bother me anymore.I have come to an understanding that contentment is gain  .I am not asking my friends  not to be  ambitious,  as I  have  always  encouraged the young  ones to aspire  to achieve.But when one fails to see the beauty  of our world  and  the opportunities  given to  us to enjoy  what we have,because of  capitalism by dragging things  giving to us   freely with others, it becomes a  problem .Nobody brought  the goldmines  and oil blocks to the world.Everyone  saw them  when they grew up and became adults  ,we happen to own our oil blocks  by   being born into  a  particular  region  of  the world where  they were  born,which we had no  choices of determining our ancestry, we are where we are through grace.The  person who   fails  to embrace the beauty  of  the  blessings around us, is missing out  on the beautiful moments  of life as aging comes  quickly  and suddenly.The person  passes the streets  without thinking about the  builders of the  houses,those who clean the  streets  ,those  who tender the grasses and those  who make our environments clean and  fine.All  he thinks is  the   making of more ,more more.Some of the gardeners do their jobs   without thinking about how much they earn  because they do   their  jobs as   their passion, which is their  calling  to help our world to stay beautiful.Doing  something people love brings people to   places of fulfilment , but those gripped by Capitalism ask people  how much they have made  doing what they love to do.That is why  many people  do not enjoy their jobs  and they  leave their places of work  miserable and   enter  a life of depression , some  spiralling  out of control  to  the point of  ending it up,while everyone  screams and ask the reason why that has  happened to him. He was on his own solitary  life , surrounded by many but with no-one.Despite the millions he  was making ,he never enjoyed his  work.He missed his families and friends  and his mental health  was impacted by the pressures of his work  which was  not the lifestyle he wanted to live.He craved for   solitude, he craved love and family times.But he had the endless  crowd  and the pressures of life with him.He got tired  and decided by himself to exit without any reasons  on his own.That is what capitalism can sometimes do to people  who are detached from love and family life.From the time  we were little  until now ,our world has changed  with many overlooking the simple things of life, while  asking for  more, more, more.

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GRACEFUL

Author Chinyere Nwakanma speaks about her new book and new award nomination 

August   24  2025  20.39p.m   BST 5min read

Children's writer and Playwright Chinyere Nwakanma speaks about her new book and being nominated for Net Zero Hero Award- FIN Best of Africa .The multi award winning London based Playwright, Poet and children's writer tells her fans that she  is excited  about  her new  book  release  and the  book   will  bring  laughter to   kids  in reading  rooms. The book  title is  -A  Tale of the Penguins and the great elephant fall  by  Chinyere  Nwakanma I.S.B.N  : 9781036917494  Publisher-Graceland  Books and Allied   June   2025  which  she  described  as a very  beautiful  book that must be read, seen  and be shown  around. She pleaded  with   her fans to  buy  her new  book  to encourage  and support  her. She pleaded with those who love her styles of writing to buy her new book and help her to continue her works. She thanked all those supporting her through the years, especially those buying  her  books and those who gave her multiple awards, telling  everyone that  they  are greatly  loved  and appreciated  by her .She told  her fans that the future of books and libraries  is in danger  of being annihilated by those  blocking  people's  books   and  hampering the circulation of  beautiful  pieces  of  artworks because of prejudice  and  people  who  do not  appreciate  the hard work  involved in writing  and producing new  books. And this is  not good  for the  future  of books   and the  youngsters  hoping  to continue the legacy  of books  and the  libraries. She told grapevine  that  most  writers are afraid that  in the near  future, there  will be no more  books, as picking up  a printed book today to read  has become  like  climbing  Mount  Kilimanjaro for the  young  people, which is not good  for the  future  of books.  She tells her fans that  being nominated  for  the FIN  AWARDS  gave her the strength  to sit up  and pen her new  book and  she  is  grateful  to  her  mentors  and all those encouraging her by buying her  books  and magazine writings.