Many communities in the United Kingdom  are together in unity and love  .Many feel that we have gone  a long way  in educating ourselves  on race relationships and right now people love  that feeling of brotherly love , which many  people drumming up support for community  cohesion,  have done  lots  of  jobs  to make many of us to see the need for us to see others as our own people,  especially in London.Of which I feel that the present  mayor and the previous  mayors , did lots of work on.The  prejudice of yesteryears  ,has  been  a thing  of the  past  and many feel that  we are better United, going about our individual lives and greeting one  another, with respect rather than disrespecting each other,  for no singular reason.All humans  are from the same source,despite  colour, race ,language or faith.  It is better that people in our communities build  up one another  as has been done in the last few years.The  multicultural  face of London, has always been there and the aging communities  mean that many are  exiting, with  the  younger generation not worried  about who is  sitting  down next to them in the trains or buses.The  millennials  and Gen Z  seem  to be very mature,  in  understanding  the history  of  United  Kingdom as the  mother of many nations  ,hence  they have embraced  that unity that  joins the world together-the building of different nations  by the ancients ,through world  civilisation. This fostering of the spirit of unity , which the city mayors  have always  worked on is a better civilised concept,rather than people making inflammatory statements , that are dragging  us back to the older civilisation and taking communities steps backwards.  In the last few years  even those with disabilities  were  given opportunities to work and that brought so much joy in our  communities.There has been fewer  antisocial  behaviours  like thuggery, fights  and mouth bouts  in the train  stations or  bus stations, because of race tensions, which  is  sometimes seen in cities  like London and Liverpool.The  advocates of peaceful co-existence  feel that London  came to that point where many  who love others  dreamt of,where  neighbours  greeted one another by waving and smiling.That is what we need,  rather than the  divisive and separatism narratives  that are  creating and   causing tensions  across our cities.We are better together , drinking our  cups of coffees  in our coffee  cafes together  and asking one another whether we are okay in our  little corners.For those saying that others  have  taken jobs  from them,many believe that those words are not necessary ,as London is a city with great opportunities ,unless one does not have the  needed skills.The wisdom of job hunting is to get something doing ,until one gets the dream job.Since  we are  working by the minimum wages,  no job is too small. We know  that most people can get trained, while at  work for many jobs , so it is very easy  to switch  from  one job to another, unless   one is in a specialist or  highly skilled job.I believe that  the shortage of hospital  appointments in NHS is caused  by non-availability of trained staff to handle  specific areas,leading to delays in getting  hospital staff as droves of NHS  workers left  for other  cities  in search of newer opportunities.I believe that the problem with hospital appointment in NHS  is due to lack of doctors,not what some people are saying.Diversity accepts that, though people have things in common with each other, they are also different in many ways, but despite that people get along and move on with their lives. Inclusion is the fact that the  differences are seen as a benefit, and where perspectives and differences are shared,it could lead to making  better decisions.I believe that when people talk to or about  one another, there should be  some human touch.I  do  look back that many of the people  I  saw  twenty years  ago in London , who  were very young ,agile  and very strong have grown old.The handsome  and beautiful faces have started wrinkling and some are  now  bending to walk.When we reflect on life ,we keep wonder what my friends and I will look like in the next twenty years  and I laugh about those  who do not deeply reflect  about how life moves very fast  especially when making statements  about space.People live happier , by accepting others  and as the free spirited former prime minister Boris Johnson used to tell everyone-lets get on with it.That statement made  everyone to have that sense of being part of society ,something big  and beautiful  with joy ,  feeling strong to  wake up and keep going.That is what we need in our  communities -love and cohesion.At the heart of our communities, is the need to ensure that everyone is treated equally, with dignity and have fair access to resources and opportunities. Employing and engaging with people, who have a range of different backgrounds, experiences and ideas ,increases creativity and leads to better problem-solving and decision-making. Put simply as giving everyone fairer  chances  which help organisations to  perform better. At the heart of our communities is the need to ensure that everyone is treated  nicely ,equally, with dignity and has fair access to resources and opportunities. This is also true of our  workplaces.  People want workplaces that have the correct work practices, cultures and behaviours that are meant to provide innovative, supportive, and interesting opportunities that allow people  to work happily  within their own  capacities  with  not so much pressures  and bias.Such work places  have  much positive  atmosphere and productivity as people  can less often,since they  are happy to turn up  at work  without fearing about what will happen to them due to racial tensions  and  bias at the work places.Many people  have opted  to be by themselves not even turning up for  hospital  and social  appointments  because they live in fear of those  with  social bias  against others but many people  have already  gone above that type of human existence,since most offices are working  by the diversity  and  inclusion guidelines.The business case for good equality, diversity and inclusion  practices in the workplaces is compelling. Employing and engaging with people ,who have  range of different backgrounds, experiences,skills and ideas increases creativity and leads to better problem-solving and decision-making with better results at work places. As we can see, fairer organisations perform better as people  are employed, based on talents,experiences,education,skills  and performances. Society is better , happier and more prosperous  when people see one  another , as us  rather than them.

Look  beyond lost opportunities

 by  Chinyere  Nwakanma

Saturday  11/10/2025 11.00Pm  BST

When you seem to  be carrying  heavy loads  on your head  and life  seems like you are working on a tight  rope, know  that you are  about to break  into  something greater,move on  and move from the  dawn to  a beautiful  morning.

Life's  journeys  can throw  surprises at people and  the points  where some   people  do give up  are  those points where  they  dwelt on lost  opportunities.Many of the  lost  opportunities  are caused by events that  happen  in the course of  human life,  due to errors  or meeting with the wrong people,going to wrong places or doing the wrong things,  of  which  I  will  be telling  my readers  not to always dwell on  lost  opportunities , but to move on to  newer things , give room for  families  and  friends  to bring us  joy , by  doing the ones that  we could do and leave  them  to  do the  rest and  to keep trying  until we are  successful.As humans,  we might think that  we have the ability  to  do everything, we  have  set our minds to do ,but sometimes it does not always happen that way.Life's heartaches help  us to know that we are  still  human and  we  need to look up to providence to help  with our weaknesses  as we have not attained  that state of  seeing ourselves as  some sorts of super powers  on our own.Our weaknesses  make us to strive to be better  and our failings  can sometimes  be  things that  could propel   us to places of greatness.People  only fail, when they  go  to get  a  bed  and sleep   forever  and quit and not try  again.There  is no harm in trying again after failing, as many  who tried  again  have found out that  their failing in the first place  did help them to move into better  places.People  only fail  when they call it quits and  end it  up.Some have  exited the world on their  own,  because  they could  not trust  to share their feelings  of  despair  with anyone,  but what makes  us human  is our lack of strength  to be superhuman.When  we give up  then  we have failed  to tap the  strength  that comes   by looking up.What  could  be the lost opportunities  that make many  to go into  depression or even  try to end it up.

1   Loss of  love

Humans go  through  pains when  they  lose  love.It  comes in different  ways  either  in courtships or marriages.Sometimes  young people  are in courtship with the wrong people , but  the loss of such relationships  might be  a  way of getting them out of bad marriages ,future sufferings  and danger.Some of them  go on to end it up without knowing  that they  can  meet somebody more lovely or better.The  heart ache of losing love  is  very much,  but   it is better  to love people  and leave  a little  bit of space  in our hearts ,to accommodate  disappointments gracefully especially during courtships,  because human  beings can  change  within a little while. Unless  you are already  married  to someone,there is no guarantee  that  they  will  not leave you  for another  person,  so  it is better to leave  room  in ones heart,  in case the person leaves  or changes  his/her  mind.But the good news is that  you can always  meet  someone, who will  not leave you no matter  what  happens or the pressures to break the relationship.

2  Losses of  jobs  or  job opportunities

One of the things  that cause  people heartache, is  the loss of  jobs  or  job opportunities.Maybe one  may have to  stay  without earnings  when this goes  on  and it could be part  of  the cause of  cycles  of  financial  losses.This  could be an opportunity  to have some rest,  while looking for  a new  job.Sometimes  people are  not strong enough to stand such losses , because  the job was well paying , with  good opportunities for travel,good  pension packages  and shopping  opportunities.Some  jobs  come with perks like  being helped to buy  houses ,cars  through  work discounts,which  could make life  easier.Sometimes  we  might get  jobs that we  think  that  we  will  retire from,  because  the companies  are  good.But  arriving  at work to be told  that one is not wanted , could be  a source of financial  and  emotional sufferings.Waking up the  next day , to tell  your family/friends  that  you  will  not be  going  to work because you have lost the job, can be embarrassing  . The  jobs were great , but no one  is born  together  with   a particular  workplace.It could be  an opportunity  to retrain  and  be ones own  boss or move to other things have a break or  go on holidays.Of course many have done that and  found that  more rewarding  .

3   Losses of  cycles  of friendships

Sometimes  people lose their cycle of friends  to moving  away from an area,to misunderstandings due to quarrels, gossips  among ones friendship  cycles,misunderstandings  caused  by  failed  businesses among friends  or  because  our  friends now have   different views to life and  have  moved on and away.When  we are with  a friendship  group  we might think that we cannot live without them,but experiences  from  more older people  have taught us that  when our friends  move to other countries,even though  we can talk to the on the phones,  but  it could be hurtful  especially  when we are  celebrating special events like  Christmas  ,  birthdays or  wedding anniversaries.But people do move from one  friendship circle to another.All that they need  is to find people,  who share  the same  interests,hobbies and  views  about life.It is not something  to end it up  for.Some times  of solitude are meant  to  teach us to look up  and  not be too dependent on people.

3  Losses of  marriages

Challenging  moments come  when marriages  end.They  come with   total  disorganisation of family programmes,  financial losses and support,loss of emotional  support,loss of advice  and a shoulder  to lean on.It is better to work at  ones marriage  than to allow it to collapse.Sometimes people do  not value their  marriages,  until their spouses  walk away.When people separate  from their  partners  they lose  their friendship  networks,they  lose  financial  help  from someone close,they lose  stability  ,emotional  support,valuable  advices, someone they can trust  to always lean on,they lose help  around the  house  and a  shoulder  to lean on,they  lose  someone  to  hug ,someone  to hold without  being judged  by others,  so  it is better  to strive  and work hard  to be a good spouse and to make ones  spouse happy  and vice versa.When a marriage  ends ,it  ends with  so many burdens .Burdens of having  someone  who can help  you to pay  your bills  or  even someone with ideas  that  could help you in your daily life,it ends with too much  burdens  and the burden of having to wait to get someone new , who  one could  love and trust.But  people  who are constantly changes spouses , know that it is not a very  good place to be in.It  comes  with acrimony  and making enemies with  the families  and friendship cycles  involved.Assets  held  together  become sources of disputes  sometimes  and custody  battles  involving children are  not  always easy , as these  take years  to resolve  with  so much   heartaches.  Family  routines  are  broken,holidays  suspended  ,there are always  losses  very  irreparable  and  its hurtful to see someone  you  used to love  suddenly turned into  a  quarrel partner.The kids and their  routines are turned  upside down and it is  a situation  one has  to  avoid  as it is very damaging to everyone involved.It is  worst  when children are involved.Sometimes  hurtful  scandals   can come  up  especially  if  an unfaithful partners  behaviour ended  the union.What does  people gain from  cheating  or creating  scandals for the families involved,they  lose lots for no reasons.It  does not take  much to stay  faithful ,just a little  discipline and respect  for ones spouse.Looking  beyond lost opportunities  could help one to avoid  getting sick of high blood pressure which is a hard sickness to live with.Humans  do not live forever on earth  and it is not  worth it getting oneself sick, by thinking too much  about the cares of  life.It  is  better  to look beyond every lost opportunities, forget  about them  ,  move on and think more of gained opportunities even if they are few.Seasons do come and go,  but it is only those  who  understand  the mastery of life that  do move on.Dwelling  on lost opportunities  helps  no one.Sometimes  there are people whose  work is to test other's  patience  and they have sent  many  people to the world beyond, before their times,it is better  to work  beyond  those kind of people  and  their games.As a parent one needs to be well enough ,to look after their kids and falling  into  some of these negative places  does  not help  those around people,who benefit  from  you being healthy and strong.Because there are many  people depending on you,you actually need to make conscious  efforts  to live  above  such moments,put together  by people who actually  do not care  about how other  people  are feeling.It is better to move  away fast  from unprofitable  situations  and moments, as they  do  propel  entire families into states of hopelessness.Find  strategies  that  could  help you to move  on and  away  from unprofitable  situations or people that  are not adding anything good  to you and your family.Looking beyond lost opportunities  is a  survival mechanism  and one has  to chose  hope  above despair,  to   move on and away  from such  moments  and places.Hopelessness is the bane of survival through difficult moments,  orchestrated  to disorganise and destabilise  family networks.Having the ability to recognise  such  orchestrations  and move  away  is  good,seeking  counsel  from those who have knowledge and mastery of such events of life is  a sure way to move on.As humans we could be thrown into diverse  situations  but looking up and moving on is  a great survival  mechanism.Depression  do only worsen bad  situations  so it is great to  look up , look to the  sunny sides of life and always stay with positive people  who have  great counsel for people  going through diverse  situations.It is good to run away  from bad  and negative counsel.

4  Losses of one's  home

Having a  room  over one's head is  a  way  of  ensuring peace of mind,stability at work,a  stable bank  account  and  a stable home address.Funny people ruin others  by throwing them around  so it is better  to  find  a permanent place to live in to  avoid the  burden of homelessness,panic  and running about like  someone in hot pursuit.Running around  will  never help you with your bankers  as the  banks  a wary of  customers  who are constantly  changing home addresses. You will never  find it easy  with  the lenders  and  those  helping people  with  money to start  businesses.Constant move of home address  is the bane of wealth creation  and many people have lost so many valuables and family heirlooms  moving about.It is  better  to start  saving for  a proper  home  before  getting married.A  couple  intending to marry can join funds together to  buy  a stable home.Progress could be hampered  as people  move  about and  remain at one spot till they age,looking back to years  of  scrapping or not going for  holidays  because of moving about with bad  memories for the children involves.People  move  and lose good  friendship cycles and  they sometimes lose valuable  letters  sent to  old wrong addresses.Job opportunities could  be lost  through  job offers  sent to ones old addresses  and sometimes  financial  letters  are thrown into bins  by  new owners  unaware of where  to reach you. 

When people  get older  they tend to think about how they spent their  times  and the  heartache  starts  when one  thinks  about every lost opportunities.It is better  to move on and not  look back  as  it is  an unprofitable  business that  could  lead to illnesses  and  some people  place huge blames and quarrel  with others  which is something not needed  as one gets  older.

GRACEFUL

The  negative psychological impact of  isolating oneself  from others and  why diversity  is good for  communities.

by  Chinyere  Nwakanma Tues  01  June 2025 at  01:07 pm BST·15-min read

People  like  associating  with others, feeling  loved and  accepted by friends, family and associates brings good  health and helps to improve people's  mental health state. It actually  does make people  happy.  People  who have  that feeling of a  general  sense  of  acceptance and feel good personalities , achieve more for themselves and  society  and they live healthier lives. That is what most  artistes who latter  become famous and successful have, because  they love what they do, are confident, feel loved  and free to share  what they are doing with others, without that fear of  being condemned  or being told  to move away and go out of  circulation because they are not good  enough and subsequently pushed into a life of poverty or becoming mentally ill people due to  depression caused  by lost opportunities, friendships and professional  networks  and sometimes heavy financial losses  due to misinformation being spread  about them. Good networking is the key  to  selling  ones ideas  and products and  subsequently  becoming financially stable  which helps people to live  very good  stable happy lives. Successful people work to  bring joy to  others. Being joyful  comes from having good friends, professional colleagues, community friends  and family networks. There  are  lots to lose  when people are ostracized  from their own  networks of friends, professional colleagues  and families because of people  people who are  running mischief  around others . They make others  to lose the needed  shoulders  to cry on  when things  go  wrong and they make people  not to  have  no-one to share their joys with when they are celebrating. It is  an awful place to be. Such a  situation  can have a very negative   psychological impact on people  and  it is not good for the general mental wellbeing of communities . Sometimes  it  could have  very negative impacts on people's mental health, their  productivity  and their  general  well being. I've seen  what people  can achieve if  good knowledgeable  family members or friends   give   them good advice  on their  finances, marriages  and career  directions . Many  people  who have  not spoken to  their families  and friends  over years are the most unhappy people. Such situations arise when people  gradually  gets  left out from  family events  invitations, because they travelled  out of town, quarrelled  or  could not  agree anymore with those  who love them.  Suddenly they are  no longer calling  or asking after  their families  and then it becomes  the norm. The things causing family and community  quarrels are just minute  issues , that  bring people to those points of not answering phone  calls  from extended family members or friends because they  just want to stay away and alone over  hearsays  from people  who  do not  really  care  deeply about them ,who they will not see in few years to come  and who will never be there for them when they fell  sick or at  old age. It starts  by a desire  to stop associating  with people one love, due to little baseless gossips. This  is something that is  not good especially for the middle aged and elderly. Community  cohesion  is very  good  and  celebration times are what make  life great. Sometimes people  try to make others to feel ashamed of their own family members. Sometimes  you will  be surprised  at  people   who ask others not to be with their own families  just to take advantage of  them. They make others to feel  inadequate because of  their  own personal interests. They  make  the vulnerable to enter into shells making them to to become lost or  ostracized from society. It   starts  mostly  through people  fuelling unneeded  rumours  about others, making those  involved objects of insecurity, vulnerabilities  and they  end  them in psychiatric hospital wards , because of little foolish whispers  in  social circles and they feel  that  it is better for them  to stay  away from those who love them than integrate  with  them. But such  decisions  to stay away  is not good  for people's mental health as people  need love  and acceptance  to thrive as humans .A healthy society  is  a place where people feel loved  and  accepted, where  people come together to dance, clap and chat. A place where people relate  well without  having  a feeling  of not  being accepted .Even  on social media  which  is virtual sometimes  it is amusing when people's  names  pop  up  and  you are asked  to be careful  about them,  based on little  "misinformation" from the people circulating negative things  about others , based on pressured events. It  is good to stay  safe, but not away from innocent  friends and families,  but some  people  are going to extremes   trying to stop  people  from associating  with others.This is  unhealthy community and social packaging, due  to lack of  empathy, love and an understanding  by people  who have rigid views  about others  based  on  prejudice, with unneeded negative information being circulated about  ordinary people just  to feel  superior  due to childishness and some  people's  inabilities to move with the times is not helping societies. We are in a modern world , as the world  has moved on  with the  advent  of  the social  media  and  video mobile  phones .It amuses me that  some people  will  see others standing in front of them and they are looking for other negative  things to say  about them. Here  is someone totally innocent  and totally oblivious of any wrong and he is circulating  misinformation   about them, based  on bias  and  prejudice .Such  situations have  made so many people  to decide  to stay on their  own, rather than endure being whispered about by  strangers and when they meet  difficult  situations, they run into  depression and diverse  difficulties, because  the  networks  they need  to thrive  have been removed from them and they live  life enduring pain and hardship as they have become  socially ostracized by pride  and prejudice the sister. Some of the  young people  find it hard  to socialise  or even find  a partner  to  marry because of the  fear of others, which  has been rooted  into  them by  people  circulating rumours and lies  about others. And they leave people wondering  about their  single status , since they are handsome rich good eligible bachelors  and beautiful spinsters .And many who  have the negative tribal  indoctrinations engraved in them,do  miss out  on friendships and business networks as the internally  engraved  negative   teachings about others  ,have damaged their abilities to love and interact with others. They  become the ostracized  singletons,  who everyone is  trying to reconnect with people just to get them to find love.  Love  for them becomes  a mirage  conditioned  by society  and those they met  while  growing up. Such  situations  can be psychologically draining  and many people  are not married  today, because  the people  they met that love them were  removed by those around them. Sometimes  people  find all the would be partners brought  by their friends and  families not   suitable  for them. Sometimes it just one family  member  frowning  at someone brought  by a relative to  marry. It amuses  me that people  can actually ask someone they love to move away  because  another  person does  not like them.I  always  have this feeling  that they  really  did not  like the person  enough,  as no pressures  can break  up  true love.At the end of the day  when they  grow old past their marital  age,  they will  find  out that their families have moved on with their own lives  and they cannot redeem  the times lost or the lost love. Their  families leave them by error ,to be in lifelong search  for  love  and  someone to be with at old age ,which  is  a situation they will  face alone with all the future problems  associated with their  mistakes. And  such  situations  do actually  have   very negative impacts on people's well being  and mental health. Diversity and inclusion through interracial marriages  is beautiful. I have  scores of  people I  know,  who never  settled  with the people they love ,because their  families  did not approve of the  people  they  brought home. Such people  go through  serious life impacting traumas, because they had  to  say goodbye  to someone they truly love because of  family  pressures. I find it quite  amusing  that  parents  do succumb to the pressures  of letting their kids marry the wrong people, just because of interracial prejudice and acrimonies  based on race, leaving the people  they truly  love to  stay  lonely  all their lives, because of flimsy  excuses from people  trying to please their friends,  who will latter  move on and away into their own beautiful  lives. They want their  circle of friends  to accept who their  children are marrying, which is irrelevant to finding love. Such people go through life feeling the pain of  leaving their lost love and they always find their partners not good enough for them, leaving a gap  inside their hearts .You will see those ones marrying and divorcing many times and dating again,  trying  to find someone similar to the person they missed. I believe that it  is being insensitive to tell ones  children  to move away from someone they love and who  loves  and cares  about them ,who they will find true  fulfilment  with and  who will make them happy just because of some little  silly flimsy excuses , based on what irrelevant people feel  about a would  be union or will say.At the end of the day only few parents do live with their kids after marriage. I  still  find it amusing that  even with  our civilisation  such  scenarios  still  exists, with many being told  to desert love for  unneeded  societal pressures based on bias, folktales, pride and prejudice.  Diversity means  accepting others  despite  their  races and colour. Most  things people  do  in this  area , boils  down to trying to please others which  they will  latter find out that  it does not really matter  with time and age. True love conquers all things. Living in a multidiverse  neighbourhoods over years in London  have made me to understand that  the thin divide  between  the things that make us different is  not as wide  as we feel. But having  an understanding of who people are , will  help us to understand them, accept them and  get along with them. It baffles  me that  someone will not like others  simply because of race. That is having  a thin unreasonable  way of thinking which is not healthy for society. Not liking others because of race  is being myopic,  because  human beings  are not very different from one another, its  just people's  belief  systems based  on where  they were  born. And no one  has the ability to  determine  where  they will be  born, everything is done by providence. I believe London is doing well in the area of integrating  people  and it is  something that have kept  many people healthy  and feeling belonged  . Those causing  others pain by telling them that they do not belong, have failed to understand the love that transcends races and languages. But  any society  where  people  move  freely, interacts with one another  without  prejudice is  a very  healthy  society.  Parents  who  deny their children the joy of being with the people they  love because of race are making grave mistakes,  because  we are all the same products  of providence  and creation.

Chinyere  Nwakanma  writes  about  how  capitalism has  made us to forget  about the simple things of life

May   21  2025 20.55pm  BST

I  happen to be someone reserved , with  many conservative views  about  life, which  is one of  the nature  of the people of my own time. But  I  became drawn into   the world of capitalism  , which  some of my friends    are  also stuck  in.And life became more about what you can  get and  what you can acquire , which    made all of us to  join the panicky life of meeting deadlines and meeting times, of which  I am not against  those who have chosen to embrace the rat race to the point of forgetting  about beautiful family moments  .I actually  used to think that the  24 hours  a  day  was  too  small  for mankind  to  do  everything that they needed to do.Nightshifts, dayshifts,weekend shifts  became my best friends, standing at the train stop alone  by midnight became  a habit after working    and  sleepless nights  of work took a toll on me.  Fatigue and lack of concentration at the  things I used to do became my friends  . I started looking at  what I could have  , rather than what I could do for others. Capitalism is the root  of every selfish living,  of which  the thought of  getting everything , gets us  

consumed with greed,  when we fail  to keep  the boundaries by  separating needs from  want.And sometimes  we fail to understand that others  exist , because  we are too busy  to see the humans  in them.Our caring attitudes to others  disappear  and we begin to see them as objects  and even numbers.We  see them as  data, not humans  walking down the streets , just objects  to  satisfy our  capitalist tendencies,  because we have been driven away from the realities of being human  and the warmth that comes from  family relationships  and  having relationships with others.This is the reason  why our  cousins drift  away  to the point of  thinking  of ending it all ,  because they think that they are alone in this huge wild world, when they should have our arms around them and a  shoulder to cry on when  pressed by the  problems  of life.We  seem  not to care for  anyone  anymore  or think  about reaching out to others, when we become consumed  by the greed  of capitalism.We  become objects of quarells  and  antagonisms,  rather than  humans full of love.Our lifestyles  become that of   dragging things with  others  and even our kin ,those dearest to us  and family gatherings  become  aliens, but they are  supposed  to be the most important  parts of  our lifestyles.Family  becomes  far away  people  and sometimes  we  embrace the folly of seeing  our families and those who love  us as enemies ,when they are not.We are    frail humans, born with with  the  abilities to embrace love  and compassion,  but when we get drawn into  capitalism   we  become species with no care for anyone  except   our selfish  inner  selves craving for more.Everyone  we see  becomes  an  object  to help  the   expansion of  our  financial books,  rather  than  friends,  sisters and  loved ones.Being relaxed and contented where  one is,  is a good quality  that  helps one to live a life  of  less worries  and  anxieties.I am not asking my readers  to become hermits ,but if  one feels that  her  capitalist  circles  are bringing  her anxious  moments, that the crowd  with you runs you out of steam, leading to  constant   anxieties  then  it is better  to withdraw, to keep your mental  health clean and return when you can think properly  but maintain  close relationships with your friends,untill  you can think  soundly rather than getting to the point of  having  a mental breakdown  which  could  lead  to  so much  losses  and  sometimes  ridicule  from those  who  do  not actually  know you.Pressures  are not good  for  productivity  and  capitalism makes people  to lose the  essence of living,  hence  our angers and frustrations  about those around us.It is this capitalist tendencies that lead to  relationship breakdowns,  making sisters  to point accusing  fingers  at their brothers,  as the sources of their  bad luck or vice versa,dragging whole circles  of families and friends  into bickering  and shows of no love , while the world watches on. Writing Graceful  has helped me to  have an understanding of the lifestyle of reaching out to others  in true  love  and  seeing them as humans  with frailties .I  used to have  this love of wristwatches  and I   tried to  see  if  by acquiring  too many  wristwatches, my endless  and constant  cravings  for  seeing  wristwatches   at the shop windows will end.I bought  all types of  wristwatches,  until  my cravings  stopped  and I  have come to see  the futility  of  asking for more, more, more  of which those  around me found very  strange ,being  part of the rat race of  trying  to  get more  ,more ,more  and  putting some in the potholes  and that does not bother me anymore.I have come to an understanding that contentment is gain  .I am not asking my friends  not to be  ambitious,  as I  have  always  encouraged the young  ones to aspire  to achieve.But when one fails to see the beauty  of our world  and  the opportunities  given to  us to enjoy  what we have,because of  capitalism by dragging things  giving to us   freely with others, it becomes a  problem .Nobody brought  the goldmines  and oil blocks to the world.Everyone  saw them  when they grew up and became adults  ,we happen to own our oil blocks  by   being born into  a  particular  region  of  the world where  they were  born,which we had no  choices of determining our ancestry, we are where we are through grace.The  person who   fails  to embrace the beauty  of  the  blessings around us, is missing out  on the beautiful moments  of life as aging comes  quickly  and suddenly.The person  passes the streets  without thinking about the  builders of the  houses,those who clean the  streets  ,those  who tender the grasses and those  who make our environments clean and  fine.All  he thinks is  the   making of more ,more more.Some of the gardeners do their jobs   without thinking about how much they earn  because they do   their  jobs as   their passion, which is their  calling  to help our world to stay beautiful.Doing  something people love brings people to   places of fulfilment , but those gripped by Capitalism ask people  how much they have made  doing what they love to do.That is why  many people  do not enjoy their jobs  and they  leave their places of work  miserable and   enter  a life of depression , some  spiralling  out of control  to  the point of  ending it up,while everyone  screams and ask the reason why that has  happened to him. He was on his own solitary  life , surrounded by many but with no-one.Despite the millions he  was making ,he never enjoyed his  work.He missed his families and friends  and his mental health  was impacted by the pressures of his work  which was  not the lifestyle he wanted to live.He craved for   solitude, he craved love and family times.But he had the endless  crowd  and the pressures of life with him.He got tired  and decided by himself to exit without any reasons  on his own.That is what capitalism can sometimes do to people  who are detached from love and family life.From the time  we were little  until now ,our world has changed  with many overlooking the simple things of life, while  asking for  more, more, more.

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Author Chinyere Nwakanma speaks about her new book and new award nomination 

August   24  2025  20.39p.m   BST 5min read

Children's writer and Playwright Chinyere Nwakanma speaks about her new book and being nominated for Net Zero Hero Award- FIN Best of Africa .The multi award winning London based Playwright, Poet and children's writer tells her fans that she  is excited  about  her new  book  release  and the  book   will  bring  laughter to   kids  in reading  rooms. The book  title is  -A  Tale of the Penguins and the great elephant fall  by  Chinyere  Nwakanma I.S.B.N  : 9781036917494  Publisher-Graceland  Books and Allied   June   2025  which  she  described  as a very  beautiful  book that must be read, seen  and be shown  around. She pleaded  with   her fans to  buy  her new  book  to encourage  and support  her. She pleaded with those who love her styles of writing to buy her new book and help her to continue her works. She thanked all those supporting her through the years, especially those buying  her  books and those who gave her multiple awards, telling  everyone that  they  are greatly  loved  and appreciated  by her .She told  her fans that the future of books and libraries  is in danger  of being annihilated by those  blocking  people's  books   and  hampering the circulation of  beautiful  pieces  of  artworks because of prejudice  and  people  who  do not  appreciate  the hard work  involved in writing  and producing new  books. And this is  not good  for the  future  of books   and the  youngsters  hoping  to continue the legacy  of books  and the  libraries. She told grapevine  that  most  writers are afraid that  in the near  future, there  will be no more  books, as picking up  a printed book today to read  has become  like  climbing  Mount  Kilimanjaro for the  young  people, which is not good  for the  future  of books.  She tells her fans that  being nominated  for  the FIN  AWARDS  gave her the strength  to sit up  and pen her new  book and  she  is  grateful  to  her  mentors  and all those encouraging her by buying her  books  and magazine writings.