YOU  ARE  A  CHANGE  MAKER ELEVATING  OTHERS      THROUGH  GRACE

by Chinyere  Nwakanma

Friday  03/02/2025   22 :5  PM  BMT 10mins

Courtesy   Graceful  magazine -Changemakers  at  work - the  engineers  at work  

Who are the  changemakers  

People  placed in  places  of authority such as the  politicians, government  leaders ,business  leaders  , company  leaders  ,work leaders,spiritual leaders  and education leaders   are  the change makers.They are brought here  to  elevate people , bring  smiles  to  those they are  leading  and make them to  live  a  worthwhile happy life. Changemakers  are  not here  for themselves only .They  are only being  helped to help  others.They are here  to love  and lead  by example. Changemakers  are not oppressive  people, who look  down on others   as  lives  are  harmed by  people  who are given positions of trusts  and honour, who make other people  to be in tears  and to cry  at all times.That  is negative changemaking which is unfruitful  and not  helpful  to those being led  by the changemakers. When  changemakers  are  being shaken ,it is a sign that  they might be in error or  could  be living selfish  and need to retrace  their  steps  because   the tears  of the people  they are leading  disturbing the elements  of the earth.It is their duty to make  sure  that  people  live in joy  and are  always thankful.The changemaker  prospers  when the people  they are  leading are prosperous, happy  and everywhere  remains calm because  everyone is being  pulled  along and people  are thankful.There is turbulence  with the elements  of the earth  when many people  bear grudges  against  the  leaders. Changemakers  are  brought here  to lead with love that is the reason why most  of them  are  given  enormous  resources  such  as wealth  and education,wisdom and knowledge  to  help others  to be happy  and live  a worthwhile life. Changemakers  are  supposed  to be the light of the world.And they are  giving torches  in the  form of  knowledge  to  make them efficient  in their  services  and they  cannot  walk  as if they are  there  by themselves.They  have been    assigned  to work  in their  different capacities  to elevate  the world and they cannot live selfish  to  avoid  the shaking  of the  earth  because of the tears  of those they are  leading.Many people  born  into  changemaking families  sometimes  become distracted  and get  carried  away  by the  enormous  gifts  they are  born into  forgetting  that they  are in a  calling to help  others.Some may get overwhelmed  by the  enormous responsibilities  and pressures  but they  need  grace  to  be able  to work  in the capacities  they are  born into  as  they are  just  humans.Change makers  are  not  superhumans  or perfect people  ,they are people  who  constantly  live by grace  and through  daily  self  appraisal pass through  challenges  that are  set   to stop them from helping others.When changemakers  are challenged  they  need to retreat  from the eyes  of the crowd have  rest  and seek  counsel.Otherwise they will  experience  burnouts  and sometimes depression. Changemakers   does not need  human validation as  they are in a calling  and  have to do their  works  as  led.

              WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THE CHANGEMAKERS  ARE  DISTRACTED

Change makers and change bringers  look up  and look forward  and do  not look at  distractions  because every minute counts  to  help others . The joy  many people have daily  to move on and live  better  are  attached to  them and what  they are doing to put smiles on their faces.They  are brought  here  to elevate  the world.Sometimes they are  constantly they are misunderstood  because  of  what they are  doing-scandals financial disturbances etc  but those walking with wisdom  know the  crowds to  be in, because  not all  that glitters  are  gold.They  are  the  working professionals and entertainers creating wealth  around the world, working  round the clock  to make sure that  people  are  happy  and living fine. In this  life there  are many people  using  mind  games  to  actually  cause others  to fail, but  when  changemakers  are  brought  down  then  all the  people  who  they  are helping or  elevating  sometimes  go  down  too.As  a man thinks  in his heart  so he  is or  becomes.But  you are a change maker  brought  here to make others  to  smile and help them to become  better,richer and more successful.That  is the reason why ,you  must  move on and look away from the  distractions  that are there  to make you to stop and keep  many  people  down  ,because you are no longer  being seen or  heard  anymore.It does not matter who the distractor is trying to daint  your  work.It  does not matter what  he is  saying or calling  you. You are simply a change maker  and  should never  back  off because of  a simple distraction.For  some reasons  when people  are  working hard  to  earn a living or  make  life worthwhile for others,   there  will  be some negatives  to pull them down.It  comes when  people  are over celebrating  milestones  of achievements and then someone  out of the  blues  comes  with  one negative tale. It is better  to celebrate  milestones  quietly  if you notice  that you  have such  people  around you.If you are  used  to someone  hanging about  to  ruin your joyful  moments ,then celebrate  quietly  to avoid  their  embarrassments  .I grew  up at a time  when everyone  is danced together  to celebrate  milestones  but  I have learnt  to  kneel  and give thanks when great things  happen  around me   . A   wise  man does not  spoil  the joy  of his friends  and family.It is better to dance with others  when they are  happy  and keep our resentments away  until  when it is appropriate  to speak out regarding what we feel  that  our friends  or  Kins  did not do well. I  have seen people gather people  to come and say negative words when  somebody is being congratulated.It is actually civil  to allow people  to celebrate  their  milestones  of successes without putting sands  inside their  semolina.But what  can we do when people  try to put us  down    when it is obvious that we have done  well.

• It is better to keep mute  and not to take the put  down on a personal level.Sometimes  they are under control  of something  they do not  understand

• It is wiser  not to speak  but allow  such  distractions  to run  their courses.

• The more you speak  they will  have  more  crowd  to  spread  the negative words  about you and all of the crowd  speaking are on the same agenda

• You will lose lots of money  and your success  will  be  wasted  or  slashed if you leave  your  work  and be answering  It  is  all  distraction  to get you  to become  a failure after  succeeding  due to  your  hardwork.It might  be a tactic  to put you on a journey  of them taking what  you have , so  do not waste  your energy  answering back.

• The best answer  to negative tale bearing is to  keep mute  ,keep  working , look up  as  you will  always be exonerated  in the  future . We are not here  on our own.

•  Some people actually  thrive in putting others down ,  but it is human error and the changemaker  does not hold any grudges against people that are making such mistakes around them . No matter the changemakers  mistakes ,they can still bring  themselves  to  places of change and be the change that other people need.The  mistakes  are just there  to  remind the  changemaker  that they are  still human.A  changemaker  can go into  the error  of pride  ,if they  have become  so  blessed  and enlarged  and they  have no spiritual  guidance.They may start acting  or  feeling larger  than life  which will make those around them to  revolt.And  some of those  around may  halt them  in a very  hurtful  way.
• It is better  for the  changemaker  not to live in regrets but move on and do better  things  for the  world  with their  time,gifts  and money,even  when  there  are  studs  due to  misunderstandings, as every  minute  counts  to do  something  great  to change lives. To be here on earth is a gift, so there is something good to live for even  when  a changemaker  fails  so it is better  to hold on. Someone will feel better when you wave  and smile at them on the street so you are adding value to them -so move on

                               WHEN  A  CHANGEMAKER  FAILS  THE  STANDARDS  AND IS  DOWN

Sometimes the changemaker  being human can fail the standards.At such times criticisms  are  greatly poured.Many  people  easily  forget  the  good  things done in the past  by the changemaker  and that is human fraility.The changemaker  needs  to stand up  immediately  and move on.It is great that  every changemaker   sorrounds  themselves with genuine  ,sympathetic people  so  that even if they fail the standards  as a result of human fraility,there  will  be  lovely warm embrace around them  from those who genuinely love  and care  for them ,so that  they can move  on  with their  jobs  and  not  end  their  works  abruptly  or  go into  oblivion due  to  human failings  as a result of  challenges  or personal weaknesses. Changemakers  can experience  burnouts  as a result of  too much work  and this is the reason  why humans are given holiday  periods  to have some  rests.

     The  Professor  lecturing  young people   at  the University 

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Courtesy- Graceful  magazine  :The  Parliamentarians  and  the leaders  are the changemakers  brought to help the  world

Images  are for  illustration purposes

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Dealing  with the silent Pain

by Graceful  Online  Team

Friday  05/12/25  15:02  PM  BMT 10mins

Video  Copyright  -A  good  companion brings comfort  during difficult times

One cannot go through life unscathed by crisis at one point or the other. Every individual’s life and every society are sucked in eventuality, as though by a magnetic field, into the raw whirlwind of life's dynamics, reminding us of how frail and unpredictable life  could be.Your existence can be. Now, these twists and turns can leave even the best of us in a hard place. In some cases, we can carry our wounds from life's trials unspoken of, even to the best of our friends. "Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of troubles."To pilot ones way out of life's most difficult moments, you do not need to live in denial. Own up to it. Try to see beyond the past and press on to the future. Rather than burying your heads in the mould of the past hurts and pains that tried to suck you down to the doldrums of emotional quagmire, look up!.Until you do that, you will not have a solution. The future holds so many promises.We cannot live a normal life without crisis, tribulations works out patience, hope and experiences.Your life is not dependent on that mistake that you made some years ago. People can come and afflict you by reminding you of a mistake you made about twenty years ago. But you are just a human, who do not need to dwell in the past but in the future. So why not think about moving on. The future cannot come until you deal with your yesterday. Yesterday will limit your focus. Forget, the past! No matter how deep your pain is.Do some good for society and others.No matter how big your problems look like, pour them out. Why let your crisis disgrace you when you have divine grace available to you?.

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The Reasons why we need to stand firm and strong

by  Graceful  Online team

Saturday 24/11/2025  11:60  A.m  BMT  10mins

 Life can throw surprises at people, but as a man thinks in his heart so  he becomes. No matter  who you are,   your ability    to navigate  the storms  of life,will determine  the journey of your life . Many people might think otherwise, but if you must succeed in life, you need to always have it in  your mind, that no matter what is happening today, that tomorrow will be better.

If  you  surround  yourself with  people who can only  see your failures  and mistakes ,then  you will live your life forever in  self  pity  ,regrets  and always  seeing  yourself as  a  failure.

The man that failed is the man ,who went to sleep inside the bed of failure, after failing so many times.                                                                                      

Successful people are always positive and forward looking. If you have to listen to the people or voices of failure or that you are already a destroyed person based on past events, which means that you will always be looking backward and not forward. If you go back to make the same mistakes that made things to go wrong, then you did not learn any lessons. You will consign yourself to a lifetime of sorrow and pillow crying. But you are bigger than that, because there is hope for every living person. Hope only dies in the graveyard. Many people have gone to commit suicide for others, because of pettiness and bullying.  You can do better. Move on and do not look back.

• This is your life and not another person’s life. So you need to make the best of your talent, time, money and everything given to you, as you will render an account of them all. Many people are in places they do not like today, because they have misused the opportunities given to them.
• If you fail you will have no one to blame. Even if you have people who made you to look backwards and fail, they will move on, while you  continue to cry.
• Nobody can determine who you will become unless you have  offered up your life to them.
• You  are on a  journey  and  at  the end of the journey you will be leaving this world alone and rendering your account alone.
• If you end up having kids, no child will listen to the reasons and excuses why you failed.                                                                     
• History will remember you for the negative and your great grandchildren will see what you have done with disdain .The name calling by people do not make you what they are saying. But staying positive means that you can rewrite your own history.

• Whether you succeed or not is up to you. When you have no money in your pocket, the hunger will be yours. This is the reason why you must hold your job and be the  best at it.
• You have a legacy to keep for generations to come, so if you keep a bad legacy you are on your own.

If you are consigned to a mental health clinic, people will come and visit  you for  few times  and after  sometimes  you will be on your own , so why are you worried  to the point of breaking  down. You can only have a mental health breakdown, if you give in to situations that keep you stressed out. You will develop high blood pressure and the hospital bed will be  for you alone, if you are thinking too much about past events and failings. There is nobody that has gone away from this life with what they have on earth.Think positive,be positive  and it is well  with you.

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 What to do to stay upbeat when you are feeling   down

    by  Graceful  Online team

    Monday  24 /11.2025  14:30 BMT  10minutes

  Credit-Graceful An executive  worried  about  market trends

We live in a world that is different from what our grandparents lived. We live in a world that is fast and furious. I  was  speaking  to   my  friends  and  we were  sharing that never  in our  wildest imaginations  did we  ever  think  that  our world  will  change  in a moment. But  we shared some thoughts about  things  families  and  people  can  do to  keep  upbeat in times  like  this. Somebody was asking me about what to do to avoid depression. I told her to always   listen to good news and to avoid listening to people that are peddling bad news. Avoid people who are always negative.

1 Read a good magazine or newspaper  

2  Dress up in a fun way  to keep upbeat.

3 Read a good book and be inspired.

4 Think about taking an online course to get new skills, going to college  or  University to study

5 Join groups online that can hold meaningful discussions and do video conferencing

6 Attend online seminars and conferences

7 You  may  think  of  learning  a new  craft  online  or  doing  craft  with  friends  and  family.

8 Chat with friends and family 

9 Send a gift to someone who is lonely especially   the elderly

10 Listen to music or watch positive events on the   television. Play chess, Ludo or scrabble

11 Learn how to cook, draw or knit

12 If you have garden space.  Plant some seeds and make a new garden

13 Join the NHS if you have the skills to help out

14 Take photography as a hobby. Do some selfies and share to friends and family.

15 Do some shopping, jogging or tidy up the house

16 Pray in every situation and pray for our world

17 Above  all have hope  that things  will improve

18 Listen to sermons  and motivational  speakers

19  Watch comedy   or  listen to  comedians

20  Visit friends  or  families  and share your worries with them

21  Join groups that share your interests  and be busy  with positive people

22  Listen to testimonies  of people  who overcame  difficulties  and learn  new coping  strategies .

23  Always  talk to  people  who can  encourage  and  comfort  you

24  Move  away from people  who  tell you things that  will  worsen your situation

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Moving on and away from painful memories

by  Graceful  Online team

Friday 21/11/2025  22:58 am  5mins

Moving on and away from negative events  of life   is something that we are encouraging everyone to do which  is the  fastest way  to recovery  . The person that failed is the person who accidentally ran into a trench and slept there without making efforts to walk out or scream out for help. Many people have experienced losses of loved ones, broken marriages, separation from their loved ones, health problems, because of the impact of the virus, but everyone is encouraged to look forward and to move on. Tomorrow  will always be better.

Why dwell on the old spilled milk, instead of replacing the spilled milk with a beautiful new better tasting milk in a better new milk bottle?.

There are situations in life which human beings cannot stop, the corona virus event was one of those events which nobody could have stopped .And casting blames on how people did fail , in relation to the events of the virus is not worth it ,as we all need to move on .Remembering those long queues in the shops and empty shelves  could be hurting , but knowing fully well that we did overcome is something that we need to be thankful for.

1 Be thankful that you saw the virus and that you survived. It is history.

2 Be thankful that the scientists have discovered the vaccines to prevent the virus. Get inoculated.

3   Things were not as bad as it was during the early times of the viral outbreak, so there is something to cheer about.

4  Life is more important than what you will use to keep it  going, so be happy. Be happy even if you lost money, because of the impact of the virus. You can always recover.

5 Dwell on the new positive things that are happening around you ,right now. It will even get better.

6   Stay away from things that will remind you of what happened during the viral outbreak. They  will take you backwards.

7   Be in contact with your friends, family and social network. Family is very important.

8   Move away from people who are negative and are constantly reminding you of past events. Sitting down with them can only reopen old wounds.

9 Listen to inspirational music, books and watch positive events. Listen to uplifting stories of survival, faith and love.It does help.

10 Live on faith, love and hope things can only get better. Be optimistic

11 Aspire to achieve and continue the projects you stopped because of the losses. Life goes on.

12  Move back to work  and be busy .Aspire  to move up.

13 Move away from negative people, thoughts and crowd. Be  a fast learner.Move away from toxic  places.

14 Do not look back. Move on and move up.

15 Life goes on , yesterday is gone and look forward to a better future.

GRACEFUL

Be  Encouraged

You need to move on.

by  Graceful  Online   team

Saturday  21/11/2025  22:23 p.m  BMT  5mins.

Everyone goes through difficult challenges in life. While you may have been able to cope with the challenges you’ve encountered, it’s always a good idea to seek extra support when you need it. In fact, when you realize that you need a helping hand, you’re taking responsibility admirably by facing the challenges you encounter in life. Therapy will give you long - term benefits and the tools you need to overcome whatever difficulties you encountered.

What happens when you are encouraged?

You will have a sense of hope and optimism as opposed to negativity and pessimism. Typically speaking, Graceful discusses the things that are currently happening in our lives, things that happened in the past and the experiences that are relevant to everybody's issues and will review the gains we’ve had from the previous events as all these experiences are for our own good if we do believe
Good things come after the dark clouds. Ultimately, we want to help you to bring what you’ve discovered or learnt during reading our magazine back into your daily life. As we all have been through the pains of life and can share in our experiences and how we were able to overcome.

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The  Mindset of  a  Winner

by Graceful Online  team

Sunday  02/11/2025  20.05 BMT 10min read

Copyright  Graceful -The winning  women 

Most times only  few people  get  everything they  wish  for in this  life.But it does not always  go like that.Sometimes  we may look at our situations  and feel that we are  worse off.We are only  worse off, when we  sit there,to moan about how we failed and look for people to moan with us.But we have  seen that , many people  are  not always with people  moaning over their  situations, because people have their own peculiar issues  to sort out.When  we look at the sprinters  on the sports tracks  ,we  will  see  the mindsets  of the  winners.Life is not about  how one is  able  to fail at everything, but  how  one is  able to overcome  every challenging moment.People do not actually  care ,if we tell them stories of how we failed or give them the reasons why we are failing.They only read in between the lines  and  see our inadequacies, but sometimes they moan with us and help us out of love.Being resilient  to  situations  can  be  a learnt  skill,  which  many  champions  are aware  of.Failing and sitting up and trying again,is the skill of most sportsmen, otherwise they  will give up, because they know that  ,everyday is not always  a winning day.Sometimes the sportsmen  might be weak,sick,tired,exhausted  and underperforming,  but most of them have that winning mindset of never to give up-  that is the reason  why they emerge as champions  at what they do.In this life  there  are many people out there to call people  not good enough , but these  champions  know that  for them to succeed  they have  to develop skills that will make them good enough.They have that hunger to succeed at what they do  and they  are there to leave  good legacies  for generations to come.There are many people  who for  some reasons  dwell on the negatives  and when you meet them,they always  have negative  attributions to give to others.No  singular human has the best of every  attributes  to  succeed  ,but  whatever  skills one has,  can  help them to become successful.Why is it that we  do see women,who  could  be attributed as being short in stature , by  those  giving attributes to others ,married to the most successful influential men on earth.Those women  most times  have developed that  self confidence that make them to believe  that they are beautiful inside themselves.They  work  at  developing  the inner beauty with qualities that  people  find  attractive  such as kindness,cheerfulness, hard work  and the ability to get along with others easily.It is these inner qualities  that  people  who love them  find attractive.These women became champions ,because  most times people might have called them names,  but they moved on, to marry the richest men on earth leaving people baffled,because of who they are inside of them not on the outside.They see themselves as  being beautiful  on the inside.Developing the mindset of a champion  means being the best version of oneself, harnessing  your gifts by building others,leaving ones inadequacies behind  ,acknowledging those that are better ,looking forward and learning from them.Popular stereotypes are not always right,because they are there to keep people down. Every champion is a learner aspiring to be better everyday.And  champions are listeners.Have you seen anyone failing at what they are doing?. Most times they do not listen to others.No one knows it all and it is better to learn from the experts  and the experienced  in every phase of ones life.Most champions are people , who do not listen to the voices of failure , because  most people who make people to fail  always point at the negatives about them  and the reasons  they  will  amount to nothing. and mysteriously  such people  work  underneath to get them to fail to buttress what they  have  told people about them.That  is the frailty of human nature. Most people are  born with the skills to  succeed  at what they are doing and get better by training.Have you  been  to  a work place to start  a job and someone told you to  do well or the next day  you will be out.Winners  take up those challenging moments,  with seriousness by learning from old workers .Those  who  got sacked after two days  ,can only go back home  and meet their  families to tell them  about  failing on the first  day at work,which  will not put food on their tables,buy them new  shoes  or pay their house rents.Winners  are resilient people,who face their  challenges  by not succumbing to laughter from others  but they train to get better.They do not look at people,who does not have time for pity stories.Winners  take the  days  of little  beginnings  as the  days of stepping  stones,learning curves  to get to bigger  places.That is the reason why we  see people  showing others that the house helps  are now the landlords, because those house helps have the positive mindsets of winners,that made them to aspire to  change  their stories.Most winners  are people who have faith,hope and patience.Many people  are not able to achieve early in life,  but they do achieve latter in life and this is where patience  comes in.Those without patience  do end it up,because of the  people they are listening to  and the way they handled situations.There  are people who listen to the stories of how people failed at work,how  many marriages ended in divorces,how people  could not get well after being sick  and how people  lost  out at everything.They mostly stick to the negative stories  and never  try to do anything.They give up  on their marriages during  trials and  they change spouses  every minute , hoping that they will meet an angel out there.There are few, because people have learnt  to be happy with where they are  build  on what they have  because dragging the clock backwards at each stages of ones life , is retrogression  and  always having to start all over again bring losses.The great sportsman  Roger Federer,  has this winning mindset  that is the reason why  he was not perturbed  when he was told that his children were not his own.The world was stunned at  what he did with that tempting moment , but but it was  his wife that announced that she  was divorcing him,is the  mindset of  a champion.Some tempting moments are there to destabilize  people and  make you to lose temper and everything  you have worked for and to  get you to start all over again.But a forgiving heart is the mindset of a winner.And you will always have people drumming support for people wishing to to start  all over again, of which  when you get older  ,you will realise that dragging the clock backwards  is not always the best option.It is  always good to move on.The winning  attitude in managing ones finances is to  save for the rainy days  because it is not every time that people will be ready to  listen to broke people.At such times you will realise that you came here alone .if you are not planning wisely you could get stuck in embarrassing situations, as no one will  be willing to listen to  you at all times.That is the reason why so many people go homeless.They do not save up,they spend up and hope that someone out there will help them out .And  sometimes they may learn that there is no one to always  bail them out.Being positive that one will overcome challenges,  is the winning attitude, that has made many to  go on with life,  where many have succumbed to the pressures  of life. Move on and move up.Do not give Up!!!.

Graceful

Cheer Up: Every dark moment  has an escape route

by Graceful  Online team

Saturday  01/11/2025  00.20 BMT 1min