Balancing work life for men is vital for families

by  Chinyere Nwakanma

Sun 20 July 2025 at  8:00 pm BST·5-min read

Men love to work and their work orientations sometimes take them to the wrong places.But what we saw throughout last week on yahoo about the astronomer and CEO Andy Byron made me to realise that men need to make out time to be with their families especially their wives, to avoid such embarrassing moments.People who love their partners do not embarrass them.Most of us do get invitations from everywhere ,but we value our families and stay with them no matter how busy we are, not only because we are women , but we do respect  our spouses. A married man being flashed on a concert billboard holding someone else, not his wife is not good for the involving children .It was not good news on yahoo.I feel that he got carried away by the business leaders meetings, that keep men away from their spouses and he forgot that he is a married man and have the mind to disrespect his wife and be in a concert hugging his co worker on yahoo. Now writing about Sir Cliff Richard telling us that he feels that he will not be here by next year.He will be here ,but I believe retiring and resting is what he needs right now.Most times as humans we feel that in serving humanity, we need not have our own time or look after ourselves,but good quality life means that one have to think of themselves too.That is why I made the previous statements about meeting us in Vancouver, trying to show how all of us are running ourselves out of steam, doing so many things at the same time and sometimes we do not have quality times to pray,be in worship or reflect on the way we are living.Good men and women do respect their union.Too many meetings and not being present breaks down marriages.Balancing  work life  ,business  and family  life  means  that  people  have  quality  life together  with their  wives  and children.Staying  away from ones  spouse due to  work  commitments  can lead  to temptations  that make  headlines  that children do  find hurtful.Adults  have a duty  of  care  to  children to  protect  them from  embarrassing  moments  caused  by parental  inappropriate  behaviours.Being considerate  towards  other people's  feeling is  good.Marriages  where  both parties  consider each  others  feeling  lasts  .But selfishness is the  bane of  marriages.If  someone is  doing something  and hiding  when married -there is  actually no gain.Some people like  running here  and there  but it is not helpful  for the family.Family resources  and joyful moments  are ruined by  people running helter and skelter  while  being married.It is good  to draw line  when relating  with  ones  work  colleagues  or  business  partners  to  avoid  hurting  ones  families,friends  and children.Most  married partners drift  away   from  one  another  due to lack of emotional connections from the partner who is  always  at work and not  at home.Once they start  having  relationships  outside their  marriages ,their wives  become non-existent even though  she is still there.This  is  the  cause of  marriage breakdowns  especially  in most  homes.It is good to make some efforts to stay  faithful  to ones spouse ,no matter who one  is meeting  at our business and work meetings.I believe  that the  men who make this mistake look back when old with regrets.How will you hurt someone  looking after your  home and children while you are at  work or  business meetings.Suddenly their spouses  are not good  for them because  they met someone  new.They throw  the  entire children  into emotional  pain ,just because  their  actions.If one is married the work place is not a place to  find  someone new  and in this  new world of  mobile phone videos everyone is now  a detective ,so it is better to remain faithful  to avoid the  scandals that people  spreading everything  about others  are creating about families.Most times  the pain  lasts for the lifetime  and the losses are  much.The too much  work commitments  need  to be balanced with  family  to avoid people  drifting  apart  from their  spouses.

Total life balance exists when one experiences contentment and has attained, or is at least on the right path to attaining, self-actualisation; in all aspects of life – social, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual – are in synergistic harmony. All these aspects of life function as a unit to produce results, meaning that a glitch in one or more of them will affect the function of the whole unit.

The fact is that as long as an individual is alive, there will never be a state of absolute balance. This is because the various components of the being will always be in constant flux as they interact among themselves and with external influences. So the best one can achieve is a state of relative balance. However, even when there is a glitch in any one of the components of the being such as in physical health, the rest of the components in a balanced being would usually increase their capacities and rally round to support the ailing component in order to nurse it back to health where possible, or readjust to the new state. To have a fulfilled life  people need to attain  the state  of  faithfulness  towards their  spouses  maintaining  a family situation where  everyone live  with mutual  love  and self  respect.