Health and Lifestyle

The reasons why peaceful  co-existence  is  good for the good  health and general wellbeing  of  families and communities

by  Graceful media Team

Tuesday  21/10/2025  18:38 P.m  BST

   Happy family times  courtesy Graceful

A happy man  is a man who  is at peace  with his family ,surrounded  by  his friends,  who  love him and the people he loves,who  appreciate his contributions  to help his  community to make life easy and  better for them.Living  at  peace with other  people is not  only  a  skill, but a virtue  that is  good to be learned.In my journeys, I've  met the  good,the  bad and the  ugly,but the  ugly  are  mostly  people  who like  picking  on others , who did  them  nothing , maybe they  share  different views different from theirs or they want to take what others have from them.Being able to  co-exist  with people despite,their views, ethnicity, faith views,financial  status and attitudes to life, is  a life-skill that  helps  people on the  long  run.It is not only good  for  families and communities ,but it is  good  for   countries.The losses people  get through  not  living  peacefully  with others  is much.Anybody  who  has  plans to destabilise   families, starts   by  raising false stories that causes quarrels and some are on agendas to take what the family  have from them,people  allow others  to  enter their  lives  and be  stressing them up,through what they are telling them about their spouses and families.There are many  people ,who do not see the danger  that  comes from  people  fueling  contentions in their  homes,communities  and even countries.Contentions  can make  families to  lose  hours  that  should have been used for  work,sleep or being happy chatting  together.There are people creeping  into  homes and  cities, to build  future  troubles for years and you need to identify them when they come around you and shift  away  from them using diplomacy.They always  have their agenda to take what you have  for themselves  and their motives are  greed  and avarice  stemming on human error  and insatiability over  having  things that belong to others.Diplomacy means that you can detach yourself  from them ,without  quarrelling with them,because  if you continue  associating with such people,you may have mental  health issues  or health issues  that could cause you work hours  ,  financial losses or marital breakdown.Families who engage  in  mouth  bouts, make themselves  vulnerable  and end up at losses  when they take their private troubles  to the  next level,by  escalating little  talks  to gigantic arguments.It is only  someone not seeing well , that will allow  people  to come around  their  families  to be escalating  problems , that are very minute .If you are a married  person and notice  someone , who after  holding  conversations with you  or  your spouse and  immediately he goes away ,an argument  will start , be wary of   such person's association .If  such an  association does not add positive values  to your life ,it is better  to  cut them off for your  family peace  and stability.Always  strive to associate  with positive people , who add  values to your life,work  and businesses. If someone negative comes into  a family,soon the whole  family will  become embroiled  in arguments,  that  will be taken to the next level and that is not  good  for  your mental health ,physical  health  and even financial  health.That person will  circulate  negative things, that no one cares  to hear or know about  and  cause  the family  too much  embarrassments  and stress.If someone has nothing positive to say  about  your family  members around you,he might be  on a negative agenda to ruin everything that have been built over  years.Once he finishes ,he will move away and you will  not see him  again.So many people  who have no stamina  to stand what those kind of people have said to  them, end up  in medications  and those ones who cleared themselves had  contacts with such people.It is better  not to make oneself and family   products of ridicules  by associations with  negative people  with negative agendas.For every argument  you make openly with your spouse or family members,it takes you to places of diminishing returns. Most  couples we  see on  the news, airing  their  dirty linens always  have  lesser issues than those clapping for them,while they  show  their vulnerabilities to a laughing world,  especially in this era of social   media, when  they think that  they are selling their family vulnerabilities to others to look better.Anybody  who can take  your  family issues  and put them out there in the negative  when you are down, is on  the sabotage agenda  .It is good to be  aware  of the people you   are talking to  about  your family arguments ,because   when people think that they are telling their family squabbles  to people  who feed and pay their bills by escalating arguments  by  chipping in the wrong words  that play negatively  in the mind ,then you have allowed yourself  to live in the negative mind control agenda,when you  finish the  squabbles, years latter you will not see the negative  strangers,  who had come and gone,but your losses and financial ruins    will be there for only you,started from a little  argument and fueled  with lies.Sometimes  it is better to  advice oneself to  shut  up ,when it comes to  disclosing family issues  to strangers,  because the people  you are speaking to have much  more difficult situations in their own families ,but  are keeping up  appearances. It is good  to separate  ones  professional  life, from  ones family life to avoid  embarrassing moments and dramas.There are  so many people  who  are out tto take what  others have built over years,  through tricks and they can only do that  by  helping those involved to  be fomenting troubles ,until  the same people  take their wives  and give to their friends or make them to lose their good public images  and positions,causing them losses ,they will not see the truth.Nobody gains from family feuds and  bad news  about their  brothers ,sisters,uncles  and cousins .  There  could be misunderstandings,  but  it is better to keep it in the family ,until  when everyone gets tired  and come to their  senses.I have seen  many people  who like making family troubles,getting old and tired  of  family  troubles  and the family members  become friends  again.Some of the trouble makers  who  are disseminating bad news about their own families are doing so because they are young  and have so much energies left in them ,in latter years  they will not want the troubles,because they would have gotten tired of troubles and acquiring properties.The arguments  start  by  conversations like" did you see what  bro Felix is doing  now".It  is  just  a misunderstanding  about  how something  could  be done or how someone  behaved towards them or  how family inheritances  could have been shared.Honestly , of  all the people I have seen  quarrelling over family looms,they left this earth without taking the family looms,so instead  of  driving in to see their family at Christmas,they will  be there complaining about how bad their  families  are.So they actually miss out  on precious family moments  just because of a little argument.I am sorry to mention that  most  family problems  start  with women married  from outside  families,who share  different views about life because of their own family values, which might not be great for their spouse's  families.Intelligent  men and women do not speak  negatively  about their families to their wives and vice  versa , because  everyone have ways  of understanding or interpreting life  matters and sometimes opinions  can be wrong,but  things do get worse  when family  squabbles are brought to the attention of others.It is  not really  good  for the mental  health  of the families involved.Not everyone have  the mental capacity to stand  people pressuring others to come and be arguing  with their own families,so it is better to keep ones family safe from damaging situations.It is  wiser to keep ones spouse away from family arguments  that bring hatred  among those who love themselves.Sharing what ones spouse told  you  about your sisters  and brothers , is  a mistake and can be a silly thing to do,because it can bring  resentments in family  circles.Everyone have their own interpretations  of life issues  and your's may not be mine and my opinions may not always  be right.And most times  people think that their opinion about a matter is right,but  others  see their own too as being right in their own eyes.What happens  when people  get high blood pressure caused by family  squabbles?.You wake up  and miss your  brother,sister,uncle,aunt,nephews and nieces  because blood is thicker than water.Even when you pretend that you did not miss your  brother,inside of you,you actually know that you are hurting,because previous pictures  of beautiful family times will be reminding you that things have changed and you will be hurting.But it is better to avoid developing high blood pressure  worrying over  your inability to be with your brothers or sisters, because of a  little problem.Sibling rivalries  can create family   arguments, because  sometimes people  might think that they should have had what their brothers have and are here to compare  who have what they have  -like whose wife is the most beautiful,who is wealthier  ,have better houses or cars  dwelling on the trivial. But everyone on earth  is here  by divine  appointment  and no-one  have the ability  to determine  what they will become as  adults, whether great or  small,rich or poor,famous or not famous,handsome  or ugly  ,but  it is better to share  in the good news  of ones family members,  because if my brother does not come to  ask me for  space to  move in his family,because he can afford  to pay his house rent,that saves me  some troubles.So people are better off without comparisons about who is doing better among siblings, which many people  find trivial  when they get older. Squabbles  come from places of envy through unneeded counsels from wrong people , with losses for the families involved.It is good to keep ones life simple,eat ones food  and be looking up.It is good to call ones family and have a laugh  than unneeded  arguments   that stems from the opinion from outsiders,some wishing  a family no good and they  can be  energy draining.How can someone be dwelling on the  negative things people told them their  families said about them?.How  do one believe  a stranger against their own family?.What will someone gain from saying negative things about others?.What can't someone forgive their family for?.For me  if    stories go beyond what I didnot hear  from the  horses mouth ,I do not  think  twice about them, because  third party stories are  mostly  unverified gossips,  that could be right or wrong .But even when it is right,we move on because  this life is dicey and who you see today might not be seen tommorrow  ,so it is fine to be happy  with people  while you are still seeing them.Even if  they had  said bad things  about us,it is better to  forgive on .One  can even  just stay away  but keep their  mouth mute  by not saying anything negative about their family or avoid  people pressing one   about  the  misunderstandings.Everyone behaves based  on their own interpretations of life,which is based on cultural or faith beliefs  but most faiths teaches  forgiveness  and love.  And love is the greatest of  everything.Why would  someone be pinning away, over what their  sister or brothers said and did not say.When people have quarrels  they  should not forget the good  times they  had together.  It is love and peace that attracts  stability and prosperity in families.Anyone selling troubles  to families  and nations is on an agenda  of stagnation and poverty for them  and it is  good  to stay away from  such situations , that destabilises  everyone.

The Desert Lifestyle

I embarked on a journey of curiosity to find out how the lonely live, which I have dubbed the desert lifestyle and I found out that it is not the best experience ever. I cut off ties with my loved ones, who found my recent behaviours poorly and socially unacceptable, not knowing that I am on one of my behavioural findings. Some of my friends voiced out their frustrations about my not picking up calls of lately, while I wished that I could see them soonest. Except for my lovely kin  who does not pick offence at my many queer ways  , he is always  happy to visit me and know how I am faring with my different lifestyles including the  expensive living and of recently- the desert lifestyle .The desert lifestyle  happens to be the most cumbersome,  as I was deserted by my dearest and fondest ,while the experiment lasted .I sometimes did  cry on my lonely bed ,wondering  what happens to  many people who were  forced into  living the desert lifestyle, because of  circumstances beyond their control. How do you cope if asked not to be with your dearest and well-loved kins? That is like living in the desert and no one wants to be alone at all times.

What are the circumstances that can lead to the desert lifestyle?

Many people have gone into depression and some have left the world alone, because of some circumstances beyond their control that made them to adopt the desert lifestyle. It could be that they were once rich and are now poor and were too ashamed to meet up with their old friends. It could be that their wives or spouses left them or their children did not want to see them as they were too busy for mum and dad. It could be that they became very famous and rich and all their friends left them. It could be that their new work schedules meant that they had to be alone at times or they were just got cut off from society by fate. Whatsoever is the reason, loneliness is not good and living in the desert for a long time is not good for the health. In a typical desert scenario like in the Sahara desert of Africa, there is no food,water, electricity or neighbours and the basic need for human touch can never be fulfilled. Assume falling sick while living alone in the desert, there will be no one to ring the ambulance for you or call   the doctors so I do not recommend the real life desert living for people. If one runs out of food or water in the desert, the person can die of hunger or thirsty. And during cold winter the desert living means that one can be caught up in the cold sick, with no one to help them to charge the light, cook or even put on the heater.

The Desert lifestyle means that even though you are surrounded by people you still feel alone. It can be during the times your patience is being tested. You need to always look out for those who love you, so that you will not fall into depression during the tempting moments.

GRACEFUL

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